That is, you tend to take a different perspective on things depending on how near (or far) they are.
For example:
My nearest brother is two years older than me. Growing up, we were the greatest of enemies. I hated him, and he hated me.
We loved each other, as brothers, but as friends were the furthest we could possible be. In our minds, the other could live on the other side of the world and our lives would be better. We always argued. We were nothing alike, with more differences than similarities. He hated my guts, and I hated his. He was always there, and it seemed we were always bugging the other.
That's when we were younger. We were brothers, and anything less might have been a boring disappointment.
Today, however, my brother is packing up to leave for college, and I am man enough to admit I am sad to see him go. Time has changed the way our relationship works, and has taken its toll on both of us.
On one hand, we don't have to fight over a computer, or a game, or some silly argument. On the other, I don't have someone to pick on, to share ideas with, or to shoot hoops with after school.
The time we have spent together: 16 years
The time we have left: 5 hours
Sure, Ill see him from time to time (no pun intended.) But it just wont be the same. He was my brother, he is my brother, and he will always be my brother.
Time can change us both, and our relationship, but it can never change the fact that he is my brother.
Super thoughts!
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